Watch porn, listen to an erotic story, or just close your eyes and fantasize. The more turned on you are, the easier and more enjoyable butt play will be. Here are some ideas and other tips to get you started: If you’re the receiving partnerīeing relaxed and aroused are key, especially if this is your first foray into butt play. Sex on the fly is fun, but when it comes to anal play, a little prep can help make the experience better for the receiver and the giver.